"If you've seen one, you've seen them all"

(Literally)

Yes, it's a play on words, depending on how dirty your mind really is, but I want to talk about men in general rather than the sum of their parts (I'll leave that for another post) ;) .

Though I'm always the single girl, I find my friends calling me for advice about men. Though I wish I could say I'm connoisseur on all things male, I'm not. I might be young and still have many years ahead of me, but believe me when I say that I have had my fair share of experiences with men- some good, some not so good...and some pretty damn ugly.

For some reason or another, I always meet.... interesting men. Interesting might be an understatement. Maybe crazy is a better adjective? I am always running into men with a whole underlying list of personal issues. And all I think is, really? I have issues of my own- I really don't need to deal with yours!

Just as the title of this post says, I've seen them all- from sex addicts, to emotional wrecks, ex-cons, men who have yet to come out of the closet, and even ex-military officers with PTSD (who doctors probably shouldn't have signed off on when they came back into the states). Point blank- nothing surprises me anymore. At first, they seem completely normal-- which you know is the first sign that something is wrong, right? Let's face it though- none of us are really normal.

Anyways...these men seem (somewhat) normal and as time goes on they start getting a little too comfortable and realize that it might be okay to let their true selves come out (I guess it has to come out eventually, but it is usually out of left field). When I look back, I realize that I responded in a very nonchalant way, which is probably the reason why I have found myself in some of these situations.

I find myself asking, "God, why the hell did you bring this one into my life, now?" At this point you have already invested a certain amount of time into that person and have to decide if you should keep them around or kick them to the curb. My mistake has been that they stick around for a little too long, simply because they do make my life just a little more interesting (yes, I used that word again). Maybe the real problem is that I find my life to be extremely boring otherwise (ha). All I can say is tread lightly- you can never be prepared enough for what could happen.

I don't want people to read this and think that I am not accepting of others and the things that they have been through because that's far from the truth. I understand that we all have a past and s***happens, but you have to decide how much of that s*** you are willing to allow into your life. At the end of the day, there is somebody for everybody.

If you want to date the guy who cries uncontrollably at the drop of a hat or the one who can't keep his pants zipped for more than a few hours at a time or even the one who thinks he is still in the desert in Afghanistan, then be my guest. Don't say I didn't warn you. :)